Now, I know this may sound crazy, but this is my advice for getting over fear of talking to people, especially girls: TALK TO EVERYONE! Seriously, as you walk down the street, say hi to people you pass, smile at folks. Flirt with every girl you meet, or at least don't settle for saying only what needs said. Ask how peoples' day is going. Do what you can to make people smile. (a la Sean Newman)
When you go to a party or a bar after doing this, you won't have to get in the "mood to talk" or have to do "warm-up sets", you've already been doing them all day!
Make this a habit. Everywhere you go, work, school, grocery store, just be social. It's amazing the people you meet, the things you find out.
It may be scary when that ten walks down the sidewalk your first day doing this. If you feel like you're going to pee your pants from nervousness, let it slide that day. This is about feeling comfortable being social, all the time. You WILL have to probably step a bit out of your comfort zone, but as you get more and more used to this, your comfort zone is going to grow.
As you do this, you will figure out that humanity, one person at a time, is generally nice, with a few sad anomalies. Press on, and go meet more people!
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