Getting good with women or anything else

I recently thought about what it takes to really get good at game. Everyone talks about inner game and outer game, and recommends books to read and movies to watch. What seems to come up too little is the fact that the best thing to do is go out and DO IT! Books and DVDs are great for guidance, but you should be going out and applying what you're learning. You wouldn't want to learn karate from a book, would you? It could be done, but you'd never be as good as someone who's been sparring and learning from people better than he. Getting good with girls is the same thing, you have to go out and practice, preferably with someone who can give you feedback.

I used to read every ebook I could, listen to every CD series, and watch every DVD, but I wouldn't go out and practice, I just assumed it would be absorbed into my brain. It won't work like that. If you don't go out and try the things you're learning, they will never become a part of who you are, they will sit on the surface of your brain. Workshops are good if you're really scared to approach, but if you can face that fear and just do it, you'll do ok without spending the 2 grand or whatever for a workshop.

The best thing to do, at least, what worked for me, is to find someone in a similar place in their game, not a lot better or worse, and go out with them. Make a date, at least once a week, to go out just for the practice of meeting girls. Talking game will kill your state, so hang out like guys do, tell funny stories, jokes, whatever. When you get each other in a good mood, everything will go a lot more smoothly. Then push each other into set. Go make someone's day. Assign point values if you like (1 for opening, 1 for a giggle, 1 for kino, 2 for slap on the ass, 3 for a day-2 close, 1 for a number, 2 for a kiss, etc.), and see who can get the most points. Do whatever you have to do to make it a game, make it fun.

Video on Sexual Harassment

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-2143915578134513037

This video is actually pretty close to how it goes. If you have game, you can hit on girls at your work, and all will go well. They base game solely on looks, and that's not how it is, but other than that, pretty close. Basically, don't dip your pen in company ink. If and when things go downhill, if you haven't been charged with sexual harassment, things will just be awkward, and people will talk. You don't want to create that kind of environment for yourself.