Long time no blog...
So, Talking to my friend, he wants to know how to get 10s. Not normal 10s, LA 10s. He can banter, he's got good body language, he has attraction down. He can open 10s, he can even hold their attention, but he can't keep take them home.
You know why? He can't get rapport with them.
Banter and flirting are fantastic, they let girls feel all these emotions, highs and lows, and it keeps them there. The problem is that you stay in your head. You're thinking of the next line, the next cute thing to say. She's on this emotional journey, and you aren't with her, you're in your head.
Rapport, the connection, the true spark and chemistry, is all about taking her on an emotional journey, and being with her the whole time. What you talk about really doesn't matter. Those are facts, and facts are in her brain, and keep her there. Emotions are in her body. Where would you rather be?
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Thursday, May 10, 2007
Role-Playing Games
I haven't seen this discussed nearly enough, but role-playing may be the most effective tool, as far as male-female relations are concerned, ever. Everything can be accomplished through role play in one form or another.
It starts when you go out. It's never a bad idea to give yourself a role as soon as you leave the house. Party patrol, spanking police, big brother (in the non-1984 sense), or just general pimp, these are all good roles to give yourself.
In attraction, bantering, text messaging, it's all role play. Giving her and yourself a role sets things up properly every time. You can't go wrong when you call her your new girlfriend, or new wife. These games are FUN, and they set the right frame. It's flirtatiously letting her know your intentions, and she'll love you for it. Any time I go out and do really well, it's because I role-played.
When I go for the date, I role-play that out too. Paint a whole picture about how you'll meet, hang out, flirt a little, and have a good time. I even mention how I'm going to send her flirty texts and give her a cute pet name (also an awesome thing to do).
When I'm on the date, rapport can also be handled with role-playing. (Not as much as attraction, but it can still be used.) Talking about how you can see her as a little girl, make yourself her big brother or something, or talk about how you would have flirted with her on the playground by pulling her pigtails, things like that.
When you're seducing her, obviously, role-playing is great. Calling her a naughty little girl to be punished, doing the master-slave role-play, things like that turn girls on like crazy. The role-play in seduction is obviously very different from the other ones because in the other ones you play dominant, but not necessarily a huge difference in social standing or power. In seduction, the difference between roles should place you in a much higher position of authority.
Basically, role-playing is just playing pretend like kids do. Reverting to 6 years old is somehow amazing to girls. Most guys can't do it, but if you can, she'll follow you. I think (here comes quack theory) that it's because as we get older, we're made to work, and deal with responsibility, and the fun-loving child within is put away and forgotten. The guy who can bring that child out again is going to be able to have more fun with her and understand her a lot more deeply than the average, boring, serious guy.
Now go out, play pretend, and climb some damn trees!
It starts when you go out. It's never a bad idea to give yourself a role as soon as you leave the house. Party patrol, spanking police, big brother (in the non-1984 sense), or just general pimp, these are all good roles to give yourself.
In attraction, bantering, text messaging, it's all role play. Giving her and yourself a role sets things up properly every time. You can't go wrong when you call her your new girlfriend, or new wife. These games are FUN, and they set the right frame. It's flirtatiously letting her know your intentions, and she'll love you for it. Any time I go out and do really well, it's because I role-played.
When I go for the date, I role-play that out too. Paint a whole picture about how you'll meet, hang out, flirt a little, and have a good time. I even mention how I'm going to send her flirty texts and give her a cute pet name (also an awesome thing to do).
When I'm on the date, rapport can also be handled with role-playing. (Not as much as attraction, but it can still be used.) Talking about how you can see her as a little girl, make yourself her big brother or something, or talk about how you would have flirted with her on the playground by pulling her pigtails, things like that.
When you're seducing her, obviously, role-playing is great. Calling her a naughty little girl to be punished, doing the master-slave role-play, things like that turn girls on like crazy. The role-play in seduction is obviously very different from the other ones because in the other ones you play dominant, but not necessarily a huge difference in social standing or power. In seduction, the difference between roles should place you in a much higher position of authority.
Basically, role-playing is just playing pretend like kids do. Reverting to 6 years old is somehow amazing to girls. Most guys can't do it, but if you can, she'll follow you. I think (here comes quack theory) that it's because as we get older, we're made to work, and deal with responsibility, and the fun-loving child within is put away and forgotten. The guy who can bring that child out again is going to be able to have more fun with her and understand her a lot more deeply than the average, boring, serious guy.
Now go out, play pretend, and climb some damn trees!
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Getting good with women or anything else
I recently thought about what it takes to really get good at game. Everyone talks about inner game and outer game, and recommends books to read and movies to watch. What seems to come up too little is the fact that the best thing to do is go out and DO IT! Books and DVDs are great for guidance, but you should be going out and applying what you're learning. You wouldn't want to learn karate from a book, would you? It could be done, but you'd never be as good as someone who's been sparring and learning from people better than he. Getting good with girls is the same thing, you have to go out and practice, preferably with someone who can give you feedback.
I used to read every ebook I could, listen to every CD series, and watch every DVD, but I wouldn't go out and practice, I just assumed it would be absorbed into my brain. It won't work like that. If you don't go out and try the things you're learning, they will never become a part of who you are, they will sit on the surface of your brain. Workshops are good if you're really scared to approach, but if you can face that fear and just do it, you'll do ok without spending the 2 grand or whatever for a workshop.
The best thing to do, at least, what worked for me, is to find someone in a similar place in their game, not a lot better or worse, and go out with them. Make a date, at least once a week, to go out just for the practice of meeting girls. Talking game will kill your state, so hang out like guys do, tell funny stories, jokes, whatever. When you get each other in a good mood, everything will go a lot more smoothly. Then push each other into set. Go make someone's day. Assign point values if you like (1 for opening, 1 for a giggle, 1 for kino, 2 for slap on the ass, 3 for a day-2 close, 1 for a number, 2 for a kiss, etc.), and see who can get the most points. Do whatever you have to do to make it a game, make it fun.
I used to read every ebook I could, listen to every CD series, and watch every DVD, but I wouldn't go out and practice, I just assumed it would be absorbed into my brain. It won't work like that. If you don't go out and try the things you're learning, they will never become a part of who you are, they will sit on the surface of your brain. Workshops are good if you're really scared to approach, but if you can face that fear and just do it, you'll do ok without spending the 2 grand or whatever for a workshop.
The best thing to do, at least, what worked for me, is to find someone in a similar place in their game, not a lot better or worse, and go out with them. Make a date, at least once a week, to go out just for the practice of meeting girls. Talking game will kill your state, so hang out like guys do, tell funny stories, jokes, whatever. When you get each other in a good mood, everything will go a lot more smoothly. Then push each other into set. Go make someone's day. Assign point values if you like (1 for opening, 1 for a giggle, 1 for kino, 2 for slap on the ass, 3 for a day-2 close, 1 for a number, 2 for a kiss, etc.), and see who can get the most points. Do whatever you have to do to make it a game, make it fun.
Video on Sexual Harassment
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-2143915578134513037
This video is actually pretty close to how it goes. If you have game, you can hit on girls at your work, and all will go well. They base game solely on looks, and that's not how it is, but other than that, pretty close. Basically, don't dip your pen in company ink. If and when things go downhill, if you haven't been charged with sexual harassment, things will just be awkward, and people will talk. You don't want to create that kind of environment for yourself.
This video is actually pretty close to how it goes. If you have game, you can hit on girls at your work, and all will go well. They base game solely on looks, and that's not how it is, but other than that, pretty close. Basically, don't dip your pen in company ink. If and when things go downhill, if you haven't been charged with sexual harassment, things will just be awkward, and people will talk. You don't want to create that kind of environment for yourself.
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
Self Esteem
http://www.violentacres.com/archives/100/dating-is-competitive-manipulation
If you are low self-esteem, stop. It's not attractive. This is why people who flirt all the time, even as they get older, have better relationships. She mentions that self-deprecating humor isn't attractive, which is true to an extent. Bitching all the time about the same thing isn't attractive. Calling yourself an asshole occasionally, or if you say something stupid and call it out, that's funny and shows social awareness.
If you are low self-esteem, stop. It's not attractive. This is why people who flirt all the time, even as they get older, have better relationships. She mentions that self-deprecating humor isn't attractive, which is true to an extent. Bitching all the time about the same thing isn't attractive. Calling yourself an asshole occasionally, or if you say something stupid and call it out, that's funny and shows social awareness.
Thursday, January 18, 2007
Day in SF
We roll the 5.5 hours up to San Fran, find parking, and go to the Burlington
Coat Factory, browse for a little while, and some of the San Fran PUAs
meet us there. Funny how easy they are to spot..
We go to the nearby mall, and split off. I with Robert, and the 3 of
them run off to wherever. I open the first set of 2 cuties, Asians,
and it goes well, but I just got off a long ass car ride, my banter
skills hadn't quite kicked in, so I wished them well. Robert opened a
set, and then their 5 year old sister walks up, kinda ruined the set.
We press on, seeing much jailbait, and decide to enter Borders (aka
PUA paradise!), and who do we see, but the guys we broke away from. I
see one, and he takes me over to these 2 hotties, and is like, "This
is my friend from LA! He's awesome!" I though, "Hey, if you're gonna
force me onto them like that..." So I banter hardcore, light kino,
tell them I'm an asshole, make fun of Borders, match their BL (they're
sitting indian style on the floor, and then I got told by a guy who
works there that I have to get up as we were blocking the isle...
weak!), and basically do what I do. Everyone is cracking up, and to
top off this presentation of Santa Barbara pimpin style, I set up a
day 2 for the next time I'm in SF. I didn't get her number, as my
phone wasn't getting reception in there, but I told her to call me
tomorrow, and I'll go from there. Mission Showoff: Completed! (Yes, I
realize that I still get validation from outside sources, but that's
ok, because I don't get negative effects from outside sources, I
figure whoever's an asshole is on the rag, and I press on.)
So then we go find parking near Project SF, which we do in relatively
short order (20 minutes! w00T! L337 sk1llz!), and enter PSF. We talk
with the guys for a good long time, cool seeing the instructors I met
in LA again, and meeting the ones I haven't. I met some guys that were
new to the game, some that had been in it for awhile, and mostly they
were cool. The important thing that happens is the shitload of food
they bring out! Pizza, fudge, cake, horse douvres (there's an
apostrophe in there somewhere, but I'm not sure where, fucking French
words!), just a damn fine selection. That is how a meeting should be done!
Then Zan gets on stage, I'm taking notes fast as possible, taking a
few pics with my webcam, and learned how to be Don Juan. Again, he's
fucking got inner game like no other. I finally understand when people
say that you can smell it on a guy. Zan reeks of hot women.
We took a break, grabbed another nibble, and I asked Zan if he minded
if I posted the seminar notes on here, and he was like, "Yeah, do
whatever you want! This information should be free! I realize I have
DVDs and am trying to make money, but yeah, by all means!" THAT is a
cool guy, truly in it to teach.
After break he talked a little bit more, a lot of Q&A, and he finally
said some lines that he uses, which I might have to borrow a few (take
note, this is important later). Then he says, "OK, that's all I got,"
so the seminar breaks up, and it's guys talking with guys again. I met
Niels, who is a PU101 instructor that got a perfect score on the SATs,
which blew my mind. He's fucking funny. We also met another PU101
instructor who has a music degree, and he helped Robert and I work on
voice projection. He has family in Santa Maria, so hopefully we can
talk him into giving a speech for SBPU.
After most of the guys leave, it's PU101 instructors, Zan, Zan's
friend, Zan's new SF girl he picked up Friday night, and no more than
3 other students. As we were talking, Zan goes, "I like your shirt,
hey honey, what do you think?" I turn to the girl, she says, "I like
it!" I reply, "She just wanted to stare at my tits!" Everyone busts
up. Then the banter is ON! I mention how I'm glad I didn't wear my LED
belt buckle, or she'd be staring at my crotch, and it would just get
wildly inappropriate. Zan says something, and I reply, "Naah, she
can't afford me!" He's like, "Holy fuck!" High fives me, and I think
he added that to his repitiore. She says, "How much do you charge?" I
have never had a girl ask me that before, so I reply, "Hourly or
daily?" She says, "Hourly." I reply, "One million dollars" in a Dr.
Evil voice. Like I said, I've never had a girl take it this far,
(boring ass IV chicks!) so that was the best I had off the top of my
head. In retrospect, I will say the daily charge is her making dinner
at my place, the hourly rate is 100 kisses. Now I'm prepared
Coat Factory, browse for a little while, and some of the San Fran PUAs
meet us there. Funny how easy they are to spot..
We go to the nearby mall, and split off. I with Robert, and the 3 of
them run off to wherever. I open the first set of 2 cuties, Asians,
and it goes well, but I just got off a long ass car ride, my banter
skills hadn't quite kicked in, so I wished them well. Robert opened a
set, and then their 5 year old sister walks up, kinda ruined the set.
We press on, seeing much jailbait, and decide to enter Borders (aka
PUA paradise!), and who do we see, but the guys we broke away from. I
see one, and he takes me over to these 2 hotties, and is like, "This
is my friend from LA! He's awesome!" I though, "Hey, if you're gonna
force me onto them like that..." So I banter hardcore, light kino,
tell them I'm an asshole, make fun of Borders, match their BL (they're
sitting indian style on the floor, and then I got told by a guy who
works there that I have to get up as we were blocking the isle...
weak!), and basically do what I do. Everyone is cracking up, and to
top off this presentation of Santa Barbara pimpin style, I set up a
day 2 for the next time I'm in SF. I didn't get her number, as my
phone wasn't getting reception in there, but I told her to call me
tomorrow, and I'll go from there. Mission Showoff: Completed! (Yes, I
realize that I still get validation from outside sources, but that's
ok, because I don't get negative effects from outside sources, I
figure whoever's an asshole is on the rag, and I press on.)
So then we go find parking near Project SF, which we do in relatively
short order (20 minutes! w00T! L337 sk1llz!), and enter PSF. We talk
with the guys for a good long time, cool seeing the instructors I met
in LA again, and meeting the ones I haven't. I met some guys that were
new to the game, some that had been in it for awhile, and mostly they
were cool. The important thing that happens is the shitload of food
they bring out! Pizza, fudge, cake, horse douvres (there's an
apostrophe in there somewhere, but I'm not sure where, fucking French
words!), just a damn fine selection. That is how a meeting should be done!
Then Zan gets on stage, I'm taking notes fast as possible, taking a
few pics with my webcam, and learned how to be Don Juan. Again, he's
fucking got inner game like no other. I finally understand when people
say that you can smell it on a guy. Zan reeks of hot women.
We took a break, grabbed another nibble, and I asked Zan if he minded
if I posted the seminar notes on here, and he was like, "Yeah, do
whatever you want! This information should be free! I realize I have
DVDs and am trying to make money, but yeah, by all means!" THAT is a
cool guy, truly in it to teach.
After break he talked a little bit more, a lot of Q&A, and he finally
said some lines that he uses, which I might have to borrow a few (take
note, this is important later). Then he says, "OK, that's all I got,"
so the seminar breaks up, and it's guys talking with guys again. I met
Niels, who is a PU101 instructor that got a perfect score on the SATs,
which blew my mind. He's fucking funny. We also met another PU101
instructor who has a music degree, and he helped Robert and I work on
voice projection. He has family in Santa Maria, so hopefully we can
talk him into giving a speech for SBPU.
After most of the guys leave, it's PU101 instructors, Zan, Zan's
friend, Zan's new SF girl he picked up Friday night, and no more than
3 other students. As we were talking, Zan goes, "I like your shirt,
hey honey, what do you think?" I turn to the girl, she says, "I like
it!" I reply, "She just wanted to stare at my tits!" Everyone busts
up. Then the banter is ON! I mention how I'm glad I didn't wear my LED
belt buckle, or she'd be staring at my crotch, and it would just get
wildly inappropriate. Zan says something, and I reply, "Naah, she
can't afford me!" He's like, "Holy fuck!" High fives me, and I think
he added that to his repitiore. She says, "How much do you charge?" I
have never had a girl ask me that before, so I reply, "Hourly or
daily?" She says, "Hourly." I reply, "One million dollars" in a Dr.
Evil voice. Like I said, I've never had a girl take it this far,
(boring ass IV chicks!) so that was the best I had off the top of my
head. In retrospect, I will say the daily charge is her making dinner
at my place, the hourly rate is 100 kisses. Now I'm prepared
Wednesday, January 17, 2007
Being a "Nice guy"
I know this is counter-intuitive, but telling girls how awesome they are can be just as effective as anything else. The other day, in SF, one of the girls I was talking to was sitting down and needed to get up, so I said, "Give me your hands, princess." She was like, "Did you just call me princess?" and her face just beamed!
There truly is a spot for sweet guys in this world. Too much time is spent on negs and reducing their self-esteem, but the occasional sweet thing can go a LOT farther than an occasional neg ever will. "Look at you, you're my new princess!", "I like this girl, she's a total sweety!", things like that can be even more powerful than calling a girl a brat. Plus, it gives everyone a warm fuzzy feeling most people think you can only get from alcohol, but no! The only thing better is the well-timed spank, but that's another post..
There truly is a spot for sweet guys in this world. Too much time is spent on negs and reducing their self-esteem, but the occasional sweet thing can go a LOT farther than an occasional neg ever will. "Look at you, you're my new princess!", "I like this girl, she's a total sweety!", things like that can be even more powerful than calling a girl a brat. Plus, it gives everyone a warm fuzzy feeling most people think you can only get from alcohol, but no! The only thing better is the well-timed spank, but that's another post..
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